Do conversations end when people want them to?
Do conversations end when people want them to?
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DOI：
10.1073/pnas.2011809118
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发表时间：
2021-03-09
影响因子：
11.1
通讯作者：
Wilson, Timothy D.
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作者：
Mastroianni, Adam M.;Gilbert, Daniel T.;Wilson, Timothy D.
当人们希望谈话结束时，谈话会结束吗？令人惊讶的是，行为科学并没有回答这个关于人类社会活动中最普遍存在的基本问题。在两项涉及932次对话的研究中，我们要求对话者报告他们希望对话何时结束，并估计他们的伴侣（研究1中是亲密的人，研究2中是陌生人）希望对话何时结束。结果表明，对话几乎从来没有结束时，双方都希望他们和很少结束时，即使是一个熟人希望他们和期望和实际持续时间之间的平均差异大约是一半的持续时间的谈话。交谈者对伴侣何时想要结束几乎一无所知，也低估了伴侣的愿望与自己的愿望之间的差异。这些研究表明，结束对话是一个经典的“协调问题”，人类无法解决，因为这样做需要他们通常互相保留的信息。因此，大多数对话似乎在没有人希望的时候结束。
Do conversations end when people want them to? Surprisingly, behavioral science provides no answer to this fundamental question about the most ubiquitous of all human social activities. In two studies of 932 conversations, we asked conversants to report when they had wanted a conversation to end and to estimate when their partner (who was an intimate in Study 1 and a stranger in Study 2) had wanted it to end. Results showed that conversations almost never ended when both conversants wanted them to and rarely ended when even one conversant wanted them to and that the average discrepancy between desired and actual durations was roughly half the duration of the conversation. Conversants had little idea when their partners wanted to end and underestimated how discrepant their partners' desires were from their own. These studies suggest that ending conversations is a classic "coordination problem" that humans are unable to solve because doing so requires information that they normally keep from each other. As a result, most conversations appear to end when no one wants them to.