The Real Versus the Ideal: Predicting Relationship Satisfaction and Well-Being From Endorsement of Marriage Myths and Benevolent Sexism
The Real Versus the Ideal: Predicting Relationship Satisfaction and Well-Being From Endorsement of Marriage Myths and Benevolent Sexism
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DOI：
10.1177/0361684314528304
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发表时间：
2015-03-01
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4
通讯作者：
Macina, Veronica
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作者：
Casad, Bettina J.;Salazar, Marissa M.;Macina, Veronica
婚姻是美国文化中的一种仪式，受到媒体中童话般的期望的影响，并通过性别角色社会化而得以延续。我们的研究测试认可的婚姻神话和仁慈的性别歧视的预测从事异性恋大学女性的婚前关系的结果和心理健康。异性恋关系中的女性（N = 99）在婚礼前6-12个月完成了一份在线问卷。结果表明，认可的婚姻神话预测积极的经验，而仁慈的性别歧视预测消极的经验。然而，一些互动表明，拒绝婚姻神话但赞同仁慈的性别歧视的女性表现出更多的负面模式，包括较低的关系满意度和信心，较低的教育期望和较高的抑郁症。结果解释使用自我差异理论，当实际和理想的经验是一致的，更高的关系满意度和更积极的幸福感的结果，而不一致的实际-理想的经验预测不满和更多的负面幸福感。这些结果对咨询夫妇对他们的浪漫伴侣抱有现实的期望有影响。婚姻咨询师可以建议夫妻们认可善意的性别歧视的潜在负面后果。对伴侣和关系的常见神话或不切实际的期望的曝光可能会减少现实与理想的差异，增加婚姻满意度，从而增加关系长寿的可能性。
Marriage is a rite of passage in U.S. culture influenced by fairy-tale expectations presented in the media and perpetuated through gender role socialization. Our study tested endorsement of marriage myths and benevolent sexism as predictors of engaged heterosexual college women's premarital relationship outcomes and psychological well-being. Women in heterosexual relationships (N = 99) completed an online questionnaire 6-12 months before their wedding. Results indicated endorsement of marriage myths predicted positive experiences, whereas benevolent sexism predicted negative experiences. However, several interactions indicated that women who rejected marriage myths but endorsed benevolent sexism showed more negative patterns including lower relationship satisfaction and confidence, lower educational expectations, and higher depression. Results are interpreted using self-discrepancy theory such that when actual and ideal experiences are congruent, higher relationship satisfaction and more positive well-being results, whereas discrepant actual-ideal experiences predict dissatisfaction and more negative well-being. These results have implications for counseling couples on holding realistic expectations for their romantic partners. Marriage counselors can advise couples about the potential negative consequences of endorsing benevolent sexism. Exposure of common myths or unrealistic expectations about one's partner and relationship may decrease the real-ideal discrepancy and increase marital satisfaction, thus increasing the likelihood of relationship longevity.