After All I Have Done For You: Self-silencing Accommodations Fuel Women's Post-Rejection Hostility.
After All I Have Done For You: Self-silencing Accommodations Fuel Women's Post-Rejection Hostility.
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毕竟我为你所做的一切：自我沉默的住宿加剧了女性被拒绝后的敌意。
DOI：
10.1016/j.jesp.2013.03.009
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发表时间：
2013
影响因子：
3.5
通讯作者：
Downey,Geraldine
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作者：
Romero-Canyas,Rainer;Reddy,KavitaS;Rodriguez,Sylvia;Downey,Geraldine
一项实验研究测试了人们在经历拒绝后的敌意是否部分可以用他们最初抑制自己的感受和信念以取悦拒绝来源的程度来解释。这一假设来自于关于女性自我沉默和拒绝敏感的文献，这些文献记录了拒绝敏感的女性对拒绝表现出强烈的反应，但也可能为了取悦伴侣而自我沉默。一项在线约会范例研究了这种自我沉默是否会导致女性在被拒绝后产生敌意。参与者有机会在与潜在约会对象见面之前阅读有关此人的文章，并被随机分配到三种实验条件中的一种，结果是被潜在约会对象拒绝或被其他约会对象拒绝。自我沉默被捕获为抑制与未来伴侣的品味和观点冲突。自我沉默缓和了拒绝对敌意的影响：对未来伴侣的自我沉默与女性更大的拒绝后敌意有关，但与男性无关。对拒绝者以外的人保持自我沉默并不预示着敌意。女性的性格排斥敏感性预示着被拒绝后更大的敌意，而自我沉默介导了这种关联。通过迁就来确保被接纳的努力可能有助于解释为什么有些人会对他们寻求被接纳的人表现出强烈的敌意，这是一种自相矛盾的倾向。
An experimental study tests if people's hostility after experiencing rejection is partly explained by the degree to which they had initially suppressed their own feelings and beliefs to please the source of rejection. This hypothesis emerges from the literatures on women's self-silencing and that on rejection-sensitivity, which has documented that rejection-sensitive women show strong responses to rejection, but are also likely to self-silence to please their partners. An online dating paradigm examined if this self-silencing drives post-rejection hostility among women. Participants were given the opportunity to read about a potential dating partner before meeting that person, and were randomly assigned to one of 3 experimental conditions that resulted in rejection from the potential date or from another dater. Self-silencing was captured as the suppression of tastes and opinions that clashed with those of the prospective partner. Self-silencing moderated the effect of rejection on hostility: Self-silencing to the prospective partner was associated with greater post-rejection hostility among women, but not men. Self-silencing to someone other than the rejecter was not predictive of hostility. Women's dispositional rejection-sensitivity predicted greater hostility after rejection, and self-silencing mediated this association. Efforts to secure acceptance through accommodation may help explain the paradoxical tendency of some people to show strong rejection-induced hostility toward those whose acceptance they have sought.