“The Real Deal”: Managing Intimacy Within Friendship at a Distance
“The Real Deal”: Managing Intimacy Within Friendship at a Distance
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“真正的交易”：远距离管理友谊中的亲密关系
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2016
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Verónica Policarpo
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作者：
Verónica Policarpo
在相隔很远的地方生活的朋友之间是如何建立亲密关系的？家庭研究相当重视跨国家庭内部个人和亲密关系的（重新）谈判过程。然而，很少有人注意到这些结构性限制影响朋友之间亲密关系的方式。作为个人的个人网络的重要成员，朋友在其他个人关系（家庭，同事，邻居，熟人）的连续体中发挥着支持作用，受到当代全球后工业社会日益增长的流动性的挑战。虽然大量的文献强调了地理距离对友谊的负面影响，但其他研究却提出了相反的观点，强调了地理距离遥远的年轻人之间友谊关系的新重要性。本文主要从两个方面探讨了远距离友谊：亲密的意义和远距离友谊的实践。主要的假设是，远方朋友之间亲密关系的转变很可能与友谊的含义以及规范它们的规范的重新配置有关。一方面，友谊的侵蚀与无法保持面对面、共同在场、伴随的接触有关，而这是友谊预期的规范作用的一部分。另一方面，它的重新配置主要与那些通过“记忆的工作”永久地重新制定自我认同感和“本体安全感”来保持友谊活力的惯例和仪式有关。信息和通信技术（ICT）的作用，在培养亲密关系的地方发展基金内也进行了探讨，因为这些都大大改变了我们与地理距离的方式，因此，塑造亲密关系的规范。
How is intimacy constructed between friends who live apart, at a long distance? Family studies have paid considerable attention to the (re)negotiation processes of personal and intimate bonds within transnational families. However, less attention has been paid to the ways in which these structural constraints affect intimate relationships between friends. As significant members of the personal networks of individuals, friends have a supportive role that, in the continuum of other personal relationships (family, co-workers, neighbors, acquaintances), is challenged by the increasing mobility that characterizes contemporary global post-industrial societies. While a significant amount of literature has underlined the negative impact of geographical distance in friendships, other studies have suggested otherwise, stressing the renewed importance of friendship ties between geographically long-distant young adults. This paper explores long distance friendships (LDFs) focusing mainly on two dimensions: the meanings given to intimacy and the practices of friendship at a distance. The main hypothesis is that transformations of intimacy between long-distant friends are likely to be associated with reconfiguration of the meanings given to friendship, as well as to the norms that regulate them. On the one hand, the erosion of friendship is associated with the impossibility of keeping a face-to-face, co-present, accompanying contact, which is part of the expected normative role of friendship. On the other hand, its reconfiguration is mostly associated with those routines and rituals that keep friendship alive by permanently reenacting a sense of self identity and “ontological security” through the “work of memory.” The role of information and communication technologies (ICT) in fostering intimacy within an LDF is also explored, as these have considerably changed the ways we relate to geographical distance and, therefore, the norms that shape intimate relationships.