Let's Get Serious: Communicating Commitment in Romantic Relationships
Let's Get Serious: Communicating Commitment in Romantic Relationships
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DOI：
10.1037/a0022412
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发表时间：
2011-06-01
影响因子：
7.6
通讯作者：
Li, Norman P.
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作者：
Ackerman, Joshua M.;Griskevicius, Vladas;Li, Norman P.
在浪漫的关系中，男人或女人更有可能先表白吗？当伴侣说“我爱你”时，男人和女人是什么感觉？从进化经济学的角度来看，女人和男人在承认爱情时会付出不同的潜在成本，获得不同的潜在收益。在6项测试当前和以前的浪漫关系的研究中，我们发现，尽管人们认为女性是第一个承认爱的人，当他们收到这样的忏悔时会感到更快乐，但实际上是男性首先承认爱，当他们收到忏悔时会感到更快乐。与我们模型的预测一致，其他研究表明，男性和女性对爱情告白的反应在重要方面有所不同，这取决于夫妻是否进行了性活动。这些研究表明，说和听“我：爱你”有不同的含义，这取决于谁在做忏悔和忏悔时。除了浪漫的关系，进化经济学的观点认为，在其他类型的关系中，承诺的表现以及对这些表现的反应将受到特定的功能性偏见的影响。
Are men or women more likely to confess love first in romantic relationships? And how do men and women feel when their partners say "I love you"? An evolutionary-economics perspective contends that women and men incur different potential costs and gain different potential benefits from confessing love. Across 6 studies testing current and former romantic relationships, we found that although people think that women are the first to confess love and feel happier when they receive such confessions, it is actually men who confess love first and feel happier when receiving confessions. Consistent with predictions from our model, additional studies have shown that men's and women's reactions to love confessions differ in important ways depending on whether the couple has engaged in sexual activity. These studies have demonstrated that saying and hearing "I: love you" has different meanings depending on who is doing the confessing and when the confession is being made. Beyond romantic relationships, an evolutionary-economics perspective suggests that displays of commitment in other types of relationships-and reactions to these displays-will be influenced by specific, functional biases.