SELF REGULATION AND IDEALIZATION IN CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS

在某种程度上看到了伴侣的优点的积极错觉 他们不认为自己是维持生存的关键 令人满意的约会和婚姻关系。建议数 实验检验了将自尊与积极联系起来的机制 幻觉和关系幸福感。L研究验证了这一假说 低自尊(LSE)会破坏理想化，因为自我怀疑 滋生对浪漫伴侣的无端不安全感 亲情。在实验条件下约会的人将会 首先填写一份考虑周到的问卷，然后收到 反馈表明他们的行为要么是体贴的，要么是 不假思索。控制参与者将不会收到反馈。 依赖的措施利用对合作伙伴的尊重的感知， 对拒绝的恐惧和积极的错觉将会是 管理。研究2至5检验了相关假设 一种更有条件的自我意识会滋生伦敦政治经济学院的不安全感 并让他们对伴侣的迹象保持更警惕 (预期的)拒绝。研究2检验了这样一种假设 其他人接受自我怀疑是有条件的关系 缺乏安全感，而认为别人的接受是无条件的 有助于将这种关系用作自我肯定 资源。研究2中的约会对象首先要想象 有条件或无条件地接受他们的人。 处于自我威胁状态的人会表现得很差。 在记忆力测试中。控制参与者不会体验到这一点 失败了。那么，L研究中使用的依赖指标将是 管理。研究3将使用关系复制研究2- 基于对自尊的威胁(即，对过去的负罪感 违规)。研究4测试了仅仅启动的假设 条件性会激活自我怀疑，让伦敦政治经济学院变得不那么亲近 对伴侣的尊重充满信心。约会的人都在 条件条件将列出他们的伴侣的10个原因 照顾他们。处于自我集中控制状态的个体将 列出他们喜欢自己的10个品质。相依度量 利用反映性评价、理想化与国家自尊 然后就会被实施。研究5验证了相反的假设 这种自我怀疑引发了人们对 伦敦政治经济学院个人。参与者将首先列出一个容易的或一个 难分多少自己的优点或缺点 最重要的自我怀疑。反映的评估和感知的测量 然后将对合作伙伴的考虑施加条件。 除了让我们了解自律的动态， 恋爱关系，这项研究也可能有助于 临床干预措施的发展，如培养更多的 对合作伙伴的准确理解和积极的尊重 无条件接受，这可能会绕过伦敦政治经济学院的个人 破坏人际关系的思维模式。

Some degree of positive illusion seeing virtues in partners that they do not see in themselves is critical for sustaining satisfying dating and marital relationships. The proposed experiments examine the mechanisms linking self-esteem to positive illusions and relational well-being. Study l tests the hypothesis that low self-esteem (LSE) disrupts idealization because self-doubt breeds unwarranted insecurities about a romantic partner's affection. Dating individuals in the experimental conditions will first complete a considerateness questionnaire and then receive feedback suggesting they are behaving either considerately or inconsiderately. Control participants will not receive feedback. Dependent measures tapping perceptions of the partner's regard, fears of rejection and positive illusions will then be administered. Studies 2 through 5 test the related hypothesis that a more conditional sense of self breeds LSE intimates' insecurities and leaves them more vigilant for signs of a partner's (anticipated) rejection. Study 2 tests the hypothesis that seeing others' acceptance as conditional links self-doubt to relationship insecurities, whereas seeing others' acceptance as unconditional facilitates the use of the relationship as a self-affirmational resource. Dating individuals in Study 2 will first visualize someone who accepts them conditionally or unconditionally. Individuals in the self-threat condition will then perform poorly on a memory test. Control participants will not experience this failure. The dependent measures used in Study l will then be administered. Study 3 will replicate Study 2 using a relationship- based threat to self-esteem (i.e., feelings of guilt over a past transgression). Study 4 tests the hypothesis that merely priming conditionality activates self-doubts and leaves LSE intimates less confident of their partners' regard. Dating individuals in the conditionality condition will list 10 reasons why their partners care for them. Individuals in the self-focus control condition will list 10 qualities they like about themselves. Dependent measures tapping reflected appraisals, idealization and state self-esteem will then be administered. Study 5 tests the reverse hypothesis that priming self-doubt activates concerns about conditionality for LSE individuals. Participants will first list either an easy or a difficult number of their own virtues or faults to differentially prime self-doubt. Measures of reflected appraisals and perceived conditionality of the partner's regard will then be administered. Apart from shedding light on the dynamics of self-regulation in romantic relationships, this research might also facilitate the development of clinical interventions, such as fostering more accurate understandings of a partners positive regard and unconditional acceptance, that might circumvent LSE individuals' relationship-defeating thought patterns.